When are you fully recovered from a Narcissist?

Two days ago I started yet another attempt at no contact with my Narcissist husband. I thought again we were working on things but then he kept telling me we'll talk on the phone on a certain day and when the day would come he'd "forget to put his alarm" or would plan something with others and never even acknowledge our plans to speak. Finally I had had enough and I brought it up to him. True to his narcissistic character he started insulting me and calling me a useless drama queen for saying he needs to at least acknowledge or apologize for keep canceling the plans. How did I dare question his highness!
Just writing about it makes me want to throw up really. I'm so sick of him and so over him. The only problem is I'm still married to him and can't afford starting divorce proceedings as I can't pay for lawyer or our mutual debts until I have a job. However I can not wait till the day that my marriage to him is over, how freeing and amazing that would feel. Right now he is like a cancer in my body and the day i'm "cancer" free is going to be a joyful day, even if I wasted 3-4 years of my precious life on him.

In his little irrational rage over the fact that I dared expecting him to show up on our "talk" session appointments, he is probably plotting on how to RUIN me and make me pay for my big crime. Gahhh him and his messed up mind make me so mad. I try to not think about him most of the day otherwise I will waste more of my life in anger and hate. I try to get on with my life and hope the "cancer" will be taken care of somehow when the time comes. For now I need to focus on me and my life.

I will end my little rant about him early this time because I'm afraid some not very nice words will come out but I will end it with a song with lyrics that is like taking words out of my mouth.

"It's Not Me, It's You"

[V1]
Let's get the story straight
You were a poison
You flooded through my veins
You left me broken
You tried to make me think
That the blame was all on me
With the pain you put me through
And now I know that it's not me it's you

[Chorus]
It's not me it's you
Always has been you
All the lies and stupid things you say and do
It's you
It's not me it's you
All the lies and pain you put me through
I know that it's not me it's you
You
You
It's not me it's you, you

[V2]
So here we go again
The same fight we're always in
I don't care so why pretend
Wake me when your lecture ends
You tried to make me small
Make me fall and it's all your fault
With the pain you put me through
And now I know that it's not me it's you

[Bridge]
Let's get the story straight
You were a poison
Flooding through my veins
Driving me insane
And now you're gone away
I'm no longer choking
From the pain you put me through
And now I know that it's not me it's you